What Catholics Should Do During Lent

Dear Sisters and Brothers in Christ,

During the days and weeks of penance that lie ahead — from Ash Wednesday, February 14, 2024, until Holy Thursday morning, March 28, 2024 — the Catholic Church throughout the world commemorates the penitential season of Lent ending with the Sacred Triduum of Holy Week. The model Jesus gave us for “these forty days” was his own experience in the desert and the temptations that followed him there where he encountered Satan face to face. And yet, Jesus, there in the desert — alone, fasting and in intense prayer — beat back the devil and triumphed over temptation, as strong and as unrelenting as it was throughout those forty days.

We enter the desert of Lent like Jesus, led by the Holy Spirit, to face our devils, our temptations head on.

But we are not alone. The Lord Jesus Christ is with us. And so, too, is the Church, the entire community of faith observing Lent. Here is what the Catholic Church in the United States requires of us as baptized Catholics:

1. The days of FAST (only one full meal) and ABSTINENCE (no meat) are Ash Wednesday and Good Friday. No dispensations are granted on these solemn days except for reason of sickness or those provided in canon law below. ALL OTHER FRIDAYS OF LENT are days of ABSTINENCE.

The pastor of a parish has the faculty to give a dispensation to individual parishioners in his parish and the Diocesan Bishop alone has the authority to dispense groups of Catholics but only for a serious reason.

2. Those who are automatically dispensed from fast and abstinence regulations outside the age limits noted below include: the physically or mentally ill, especially individuals suffering from chronic illnesses such as diabetes. Also included in the dispensation are women who are pregnant or nursing. In all cases, common sense should prevail, and ill persons should not further jeopardize their health by fasting.

3. Those between the ages of 18 and 59 are obliged to FAST (only one full meal) as noted above. From the age of 14, people are also obliged to ABSTAIN: this obligation prohibits the eating of meat, but not eggs, milk products or condiments of any kind, even though made from animal fat.

4. The obligation to observe the laws of fast and abstinence is a serious one for Catholics. Failure to observe one penitential day in itself is not considered a serious sin. It is the intentional failure to observe any penitential days at all, or a substantial number of penitential days, that must be considered a serious matter.

5. The obligation, the privilege really, of receiving the Eucharist at least once a year — often called “Easter duty” — for those in the state of grace should shall be fulfilled during the period from the First Sunday of Lent, February 17-18, 2024, to Trinity Sunday, May 25-26, 2024. However, the Church’s law does permit this precept to be fulfilled at another time during the year when there is a just cause.

I want to encourage all Catholics, especially those who are conscious of serious sin, to go to Confession and to make use of the sacrifices and traditions that have always been part of our Lenten practices in the Church.

We do, indeed, fast and pray with the Lord Jesus and with our fellow Catholics. May this Lent be a time of Penance leading to grace and joy for us all at Easter.

Sincerely yours in Christ,

Most Reverend David M. O’Connell, C.M.
Bishop of Trenton

Christmas Flowers Memorial List

This year’s Christmas flowers and decorations were given in loving honor/memory of:

Ben Appio
Jason Appio
Deceased members of the Balto Family
The Barbato Family
Peg & Dan Barker
The Barnes Family
John A. Beaulieu
Mary Lou Beaulieu
Sharon Bilanim
The Boehme Family
Margaret & John Bonaccorsi
The Bonk Family
Elizabeth & Michael Bruzzi
Jim Butler, Jr.
Mr. & Mrs. J.J. Capelli
Donald B. Chamberlain
Michael Chisham
Rocco Christopher
Ada Concato
Mary & Bruno Concato
James & Dorothy Connor
Sam Costa
Celina DaSilva
Mrs. Dorothy Degnan
Joann DiForca
Donna DiMartino
Nunzio Eremita
Walter E. Extor
Deceased members of the Falotico Family
John P. Felsmann
The Felsmann Family
Frances Ferrara
Deceased members of the Filak Family
Roger J. Fitzsimmons
The Franges Family
Pauline & Michael Fuschetti
Richard Fuschetti
Jack and Betty Geiger
Ambros Geissler
Joann & Peter Gesell
Gerald Gibson
Patricia Gibson
Denise Gillespie, aka Momma G.
Adrienne and Chester Goss
Jay & Anne Harbeck
Alfred J. Hassinger
Mr. & Mrs. E. P. Heintzelman
Leo J. Heintzelman
Bill & Thelma Heller
Marguerite & Laurence Henderson
Doug Hollywood
Deceased members of the Horney Family
Margaret & Vincent Iossa
John Jennings
Sr. Mary Josette
The Kaskiw Family
The Kelly Family
William “Bill” Kelly
Beth Kennedy
Tim Jr. & Tim III Kirby
Allen B. Kurre, Sr.
Joseph & Elizabeth LaBriola
Theresa Lang
Robert & Dolores H. Lembeck
The Lewit Family
Francesca & Joseph Ligotti
Rose & Joseph Lippolis
Mrs. Claire Loftus
Ms. Mary Loftus
The Lunz Family
Janet Mahoney
Leonetta Marotta
In honor of Louis J. Marotta
Janet Z. Mastal
The Mazurowski Family
Victoria Mazzucca
Marian McAndrews
The McCarrick Family
Bill & Sharon Medina
Helen & Walter Milos
The Mulvihill Family
Carmen & Angela Nettina
Christopher Nicholas
Robert Nicholas
Francis X. O’Brien, Sr.
Mary Anne O’Brien
Harold & Dorothy Oches
Deceased members of the Perry Family
John & Josephine Piccinih
Mary & David Quigley
John Rainey
Thomas M. Reardon, Jr.
James Riley
James & Alice Robinson
David G. Roche
David W. Roche
Donald Rohrbach
The Rumage Family
James Sanford
Edward & Mary E. Scala
Martin Screen, Sr.
The Slavin Family
David & Carrie Smith
Doyle & Mary Smith
Agnes & Gene Stoye
Antoinette & John Summonte
Diane Szupper
Ida Thomas
Martin Joseph Torbert III
The Torbert Family
Ed & Betty Ann Toy
Deceased members of the Waldron Family
The Wallace Family
Louise & Albert Wescott
Rose & Bill Wescott
Grace Westendorf
Mrs. Diane White
Edward & Isabelle Wilson
Edward W. Wilson
The Wolf Family
Anne & Chester Wotycha
Dr. Edward Wotycha
Dianna Wright
Arlene & Paul Yaron
Stanley & Eleanor Zalesky
Marie Zullo

Basic Needs 2024 Accomplishments

The Basic Needs Committee assists the needy from within Nativity Parish and around Eastern Monmouth County with the essentials of daily living such as meals, housing, utilities, and medical expenses. The Committee also collects items wanted by our soldiers and sailors and mails them to locations around the world.

In 2024, the Nativity Basic Needs Committee provided:

  • $52,522 for housing and utility assistance.
  • $20,203 to feed the hungry.
  • $19,415 to support Covenant House, Caregiver Volunteers of Central Jersey, Big Brothers Big Sisters, Catholic Charities, Mercy Center and HABcore programs.
  • $2,452 in other direct client support.

In addition, we:

  • Prepared meals for over 1,200 individuals at Lunch Break.
  • Prepared and distributed holiday food baskets to over 100 local families.
  • Provided over 1,000 home-cooked meals to the Center in Asbury Park. Containers are available in the Parish Office if you would like to donate your home-cooked meals.
  • Provided hundreds of pounds of food and essential supplies to the Center in Asbury Park, St. Dorothea’s, St. Anthony’s, Lunch Break, and Christ the King food pantries.
  • Held a Back to School Drive which provided over 200 backpacks and supplies to children helped by the Big Brothers Big Sisters program.
  • Packed and shipped 146 boxes filled with goodies and sent them to children in “third world” countries for the Christmas holiday.
  • Provided over 130 Christmas gifts for seniors in local nursing homes.
  • Shipped 276 care packages to soldiers and sailors stationed around the world. All costs were covered by donations from parishioners at Nativity and St. Clements (Matawan), and the Long Branch Elks.

Thanks for your continuing support.

January 23: Fighting Climate Change at Home Presentation

The Franciscan Earthcare Ministry announces the following:

On Tuesday, January 23, 2024, at 7 pm in Pollak Theater at Monmouth University, best selling author Doug Tallamy, Ph.D., professor of Entomology at University of Delaware and author of Nature’s Best Hope and The Nature of Oaks will present on what you can do in your own yard or balcony to fight climate change, create climate resiliency, and create beauty in your own backyard.

The talk will be followed by Q&A and a book signing. The public is encouraged to bring their own copies of Tallamy books for signature.

Click here to register.

January 28: Church of the Holy Sepulchre Presentation

Journey to the Church of the Holy Sepulcher by Zoom from Nativity Church!

Join tour guide Manuel Imad Abuali and Journey of Faith Tours facilitator Carolyn Norbut for an afternoon in the Holy Land.

Sunday, January 28, 2024
Church of the Nativity – Parish Hall
180 Ridge Road
Fair Haven, NJ 07704

12:30pm – Lunch
1pm – Zoom tour and talk with our guide, Manuel
2pm – Questions/Answers
2:30pm – Rosary and Divine Mercy Chaplet for Peace in the World

Free Will Offering will be accepted for our guide and the Church of the Holy Sepulcher.

RSVP required: vbs@nativitychurchnj.org

January 29: Book Club

The Church of Nativity Book Club will meet on Monday, January 29 at 7pm in the Parish Library. Our book for January is What She Left Behind by Ellen Marie Wiseman.

The breakout novel from The New York Times bestselling author of The Orphan Collector, What She Left Behind weaves together riveting stories of past and present, exploring the strength of women in two different times as they face adversity in two very different ways. Go inside the horrifying walls of a 1920s New York asylum as a wrongly imprisoned woman fights for what is most important to her—and meet the young woman confronting the pain and mystery of her own family’s mental illness two generations later.

Ten years ago, Izzy Stone’s mother fatally shot her father while he slept. Devastated by her mother’s apparent insanity, Izzy, now seventeen, refuses to visit her in prison. But her new foster parents, employees at the local museum, have enlisted Izzy’s help in cataloging items at a long-shuttered state asylum. There, amid piles of abandoned belongings, Izzy discovers a stack of unopened letters, a decades-old journal, and a window into her own past.

Young flapper and suffragette Clara Cartwright is caught between her overbearing parents and her desire to be a modern woman. Furious when she rejects an arranged marriage, instead finding love with an Italian immigrant, Clara’s father sends her to a genteel home for nervous invalids. But when his fortune is lost in the stock market crash of 1929, he can no longer afford her care—and Clara is committed to the public asylum.

Even as Izzy deals with the challenges of yet another new beginning, Clara’s story keeps drawing her into the past. If Clara was never really mentally ill, could something else explain her own mother’s violent act? Piecing together Clara’s fate compels Izzy to re-examine her own choices—with shocking and unexpected results.

Click here to see what other books we’ll be reading this year.

Questions about Book Club? Contact Liz Jacobelli at lizjacobelli@aol.com.